On the tennis court and life in general, most people are afraid of making a mistake and afraid of failure. The truth is that failure is something we all are going to experience at some point in our lives – in sport and life. Even if you are a perfectionist, you are going to make mistakes. It is how you will bounce back from these little or big disappointments that will determine your resiliency and our willingness to try again and again.
Even if you are a perfectionist, you are going to make mistakes.
On the tennis court, you’re often facing situations where you challenge yourself, therefore there is a good chance let downs will occur. What is important for you is to not let the fear of failure get in the way of attempting to achieve something again. If you are a tennis player trying to achieve a certain ranking, circumstances may not always go as well as planned. It is why it’s absolutely necessary that you learn from your mistakes. Take the time to figure out think about what mistakes you made, what you learned from your previous attempt and what you might do to improve next time. This is an opportunity for growth. Wasting energy by feeling sorry for yourself or blaming others does not get you any positive results.
Wasting energy by feeling sorry for yourself or blaming others does not get you any positive results.
The next time around, remain focused on the task at hand. Work towards your goal keeping in mind what you learned from your last mistake, but also understanding that this is a new opportunity for success. What you want is to focus on the skills that you want to improve. During your match, you will find that is much easier to achieve your goals when you are able to stay in the moment and forget about your previous mistakes.
Awareness and Acceptance = Emotional Fitness
See below some examples from the pros of why we should NOT be encouraging our players to control emotions during matches… Instead, as Rafa says below, the key is to learn how to better respond to difficult emotions through awareness and acceptance (emotional fitness) followed by helpful actions. – Anthony Ross – Mentally Touch Tennis